Foster Care Stories

Jada & Ahmed

Jada and Ahmad had been thinking about becoming a foster carer for many years. They wanted to have children however, this had not happened for them naturally. Jada being a caring and patient person was drawn to the idea of fostering. They felt she had a lot to offer foster children and wanted to provide a permanent home for them. Jada and Ahmad spent a long time during the assessment and training period reflecting, in relation to the information provided from the agency. “It took a lot of careful thought; we weren’t going to give up on the little ones once they were with us so we needed to be 100% ready for anything.”

“The waiting for a placement was difficult because of our background, being Muslim, we knew they were waiting for the right match” Jada and Ahmad were matched with two children, 10 years and 12 years in September 2010. “We were so excited and although we had been waiting it felt like it happened overnight, our home of two suddenly became a family life with four. Jada admits the first 12 months were very difficult; we needed to commit so much time to them in order to create a sense of belonging. Thankfully we had fantastic support from my family and our friends which was invaluable.”

Nancy’s Story

Nancy had raised two of her own biological children. As her children were entering high school and becoming more independent Nancy felt she hadmore time on her hands, which she wanted to put towards “giving kids some new opportunities.” Nancy, along with her two children, was committed to becoming an emergency short-term foster carer since her initial enquiry. “We chose emergency short term care as we wanted to be able to help a lot of children in the time of uncertainty, this way I also thought I may be able to help the parents as well.”

“I see our role as assisting the children to understand what has happened and to prepare them for their future – whatever that path may be.”

Nancy recalls receiving a call at 3.30pm with a request to care for a 5-year-old boy who had just been removed from his parents care. “Billy arrived within the hour, it was a frantic hour but we were ready – or so we thought.” Nancy laughed, reflecting on what she had originally thought fostering would entail and what she now knows the reality is. “Billy had been severely neglected and although 5 years old it was like caring for an 18month old, he couldn’t speak properly, wasn’t toilet trained and screamed often. It was a long and at times very testing road however, Billy stayed with us for a year and the changes he made were amazing, he became such a happy little boy, and to think we were part of that is wonderful.”

Nancy continues as an emergency short-term carer and has now cared for numerous children – some transitioning to long-term care and others returning to their parents. “I see our role as assisting the children to understand what has happened and to prepare them for their future – whatever that path may be.”